So you’re thinking about quitting your church. You’ve had those kinds of thoughts at different moments in the past but could never find sufficient justification to quit. You know lots of people who have quit going to church and wonder how they managed to do it. All you’re looking for is one good reason to quit. Well you’ve come to the right place! I’ve compiled seven excellent reasons for quitting. Feel free to use the one that suits you best.
- There are hypocrites there. I know what you mean! There are people at church who cheat on their spouses, lie on their income tax returns, get drunk on Friday nights, treat people unfairly, gossip and lie about all sorts of things. Why in the world would you want to associate with people like that? Of course you should quit going to church! And while you’re at it, look around at the people in your civic club that you are a member of to see if there are any hypocrites there, as well. As soon as you find one (and you know you will), turn in your resignation to that club, too. Then you can search for an organization where everyone is perfect that you can join. Good luck to you.
- Someone hurt your feelings. Someone did something or said something that hurt your feelings? Ouch! There’s nothing like feeling like someone rubbed you with coarse sandpaper! Why should you tolerate such behavior? After all going to church is all about you, isn’t it? It’s about how you feel, not about God or Jesus. Forget about how He feels or what He wants and expects from you. Keep the focus solely on yourself. And while you’re at it, you might consider not going to anymore family gatherings because you know someone there is going to hurt your feelings, too.
- You don’t agree with some of the decisions by the leadership. Who do they think they are anyway making a decision without consulting you and doing what you want them to do?! How insulting and inconsiderate. No doubt you always have a clear sense of what the right thing is to do in every situation. As a matter of fact, the very fact that you are not a member of the leadership is reason enough to quit going to church. To not include someone like you who is reasonable, fair, and spiritually mature at all times is evidence of their poor judgment.
- I don’t have any “church” clothes. Exactly! Everyone knows that God is more interested in how we look and dress than he is with what is in our heart. His focus has always been on how we look on the outside rather than on our attitude. When we explain to Him that we quit going to church because we couldn’t dress like everyone else, I’m sure He’ll say, “I completely understand. Thank you for not showing up at church dressed like regular people. I’d rather you not worship me at all than to worship without wearing a dress and heels or a three-piece suit and wingtip shoes.”
- A friend of yours was treated unfairly. You want to come out swinging at the injustice, don’t you? You want to give someone a piece of your mind, to really let them have it for being so unfair to your friend. I don’t blame you! Everything in life is supposed to be fair, isn’t it? We should all get exactly what we deserve every time. Something you should also consider doing is quitting you job. Remember that co-worker who lost their job just because they missed work when their child was sick? How fair was that?! If you quit your job, that would really show them, wouldn’t it? So go ahead and quit.
- All they want is my money. It’s every Sunday, isn’t it? Just like clockwork they pass that basket around for people to drop their hard earned money into. And for what? To pay to keep the church building warm in winter and cool in summer and for the upkeep of the building? (You’ve got to admit that might be a good reason to ask for money because you surely wouldn’t want to be uncomfortable when you go to church.) But what about them spending the money on helping those who don’t have adequate food or clothing? Or spending money in other countries? Why not let people fend for themselves like you have to do? And why pay someone to devote their time to studying the Bible and sharing their knowledge with the church, to be ready at the drop of a hat to respond to someone who is in the hospital or who has lost a loved one or whose marriage is in trouble and needs some wise counsel? It’s just a waste of money, isn’t it?
- Who needs church anyway? You’ve hit the proverbial nail on the head with that one! Why in the world would you want to be around a bunch of people who are trying to learn how to be more loving and forgiving? Associating with people who are struggling with their shortcomings and trying to be more Christ-like makes no sense, does it? Do you really need more people in your life who try to be supportive and pray for you? Being surrounded by people who weep with you when you weep or cheer you on when you’re discouraged makes no sense. You’re better off trying to do life all by yourself. Who needs other people anyway?
These are the best reasons I could come up with for quitting church. (I thought about including the one about how you work hard all week and need a day off to just rest, but I thought that one sounded a little selfish.) So go ahead and quit. And if anyone asks you why, just whip out this list and wave it in their face.
One more thing – good luck. You’re going to need it!