Sometimes couples' problems seem so intractable to them that the question of separation arises.  When I'm asked that question during a counseling session I get the feeling of standing on a very high precipice.  Emotionally I hold my breath for fear of saying the wrong thing. Separation is a make-or-break kind of maneuver and therefore … Continue reading “SHOULD WE SEPARATE?”

A Man’s Guide to Less Drama

This post was inspired by a post I read by Elizabeth Potter entitled "A Woman's Guide to Less Drama."  It gave some wonderfully practical advice to women from a woman.  Because they came from the mouth of a woman, they are much more likely to be heard by the female audience.  If I'd written the … Continue reading A Man’s Guide to Less Drama

What Do You See?

What Do You See? Yes, it's one of those kinds of pictures.  At first glance you have an immediate idea of what you see.  Then, upon closer inspection, you see something different. Sometimes we see what we see because that is what we want to see or expect to see.  (yes, you'll have to read … Continue reading What Do You See?

You Might Be Right (but it doesn’t matter)

“Just because you have a right to your view doesn’t mean your spouse has to share the same view.” My mother’s voice comes to me in a dream.  “David.  Wake up.” I lie still.  Unmoving.  Dormant in my sleep state. Again she says, “David.  Wake up.” This time her voice stirs me.  My brain makes … Continue reading You Might Be Right (but it doesn’t matter)

Blended Families: “Growing Up” Together (via Docellie’s Blog)

I think everyone will benefit from the ideas in this blog. Everyone is met with the challenges of blended family at some point and at some level in life. Traditional marriage is losing popularity; gay marriage is gaining popularity; more than half of second marriages fail; more than half the families in the United States … Continue reading Blended Families: “Growing Up” Together (via Docellie’s Blog)

It Doesn’t Have to Make Sense

We humans are a curious lot.  We often seem obsessed with trying to figure out how things work and why things are the way they are. So, old Isaac Newton gets conked on his head while sitting under an apple tree and begins asking why the apple fell, all the while avoiding the more important … Continue reading It Doesn’t Have to Make Sense