Sometimes couples' problems seem so intractable to them that the question of separation arises.  When I'm asked that question during a counseling session I get the feeling of standing on a very high precipice.  Emotionally I hold my breath for fear of saying the wrong thing. Separation is a make-or-break kind of maneuver and therefore … Continue reading “SHOULD WE SEPARATE?”

A Man’s Guide to Less Drama

This post was inspired by a post I read by Elizabeth Potter entitled "A Woman's Guide to Less Drama."  It gave some wonderfully practical advice to women from a woman.  Because they came from the mouth of a woman, they are much more likely to be heard by the female audience.  If I'd written the … Continue reading A Man’s Guide to Less Drama

What Do You See?

What Do You See? Yes, it's one of those kinds of pictures.  At first glance you have an immediate idea of what you see.  Then, upon closer inspection, you see something different. Sometimes we see what we see because that is what we want to see or expect to see.  (yes, you'll have to read … Continue reading What Do You See?

I Give Up

Answering the knock on my office door, I open it to find a modestly dressed man and woman in their forty’s.  Before I can welcome them, the man thrusts his meaty hand toward me. Shaking my hand so hard that my shoulder feels like it will unhinge, he says enthusiastically, “You must be David.  My … Continue reading I Give Up

Breaking Free of the Chameleon Life

“To live life based on the expectations of others, is to live the life of a chameleon; constantly trying to read situations and become whatever they are expected to be.  The problem with the life of a chameleon is one never knows who they really are.” People’s strong, positive reaction to the above paragraph (and … Continue reading Breaking Free of the Chameleon Life


Tori* gives a furtive glance at the clock as she places the bowl of potatoes on the dining table.  Her green eyes widen.  Six o’clock.  The ancient Seth Thomas clock that belonged to her great-great-grandparents begins its slow marking of the hour.  Her heart pounds in time to each strike of the hammer.  The whirring … Continue reading IT’S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU

It Doesn’t Have to Make Sense

We humans are a curious lot.  We often seem obsessed with trying to figure out how things work and why things are the way they are. So, old Isaac Newton gets conked on his head while sitting under an apple tree and begins asking why the apple fell, all the while avoiding the more important … Continue reading It Doesn’t Have to Make Sense