As Reggie sits across from me I watch him sit forward on the edge of his chair. His head is bowed. The frayed and stained Atlanta Braves baseball cap indicates his cap is not for decorations. It's part of his daily wardrobe, used to keep his eyes shielded from the glaring sun as he works … Continue reading “When Am I Going to Get Over This?
Sometimes couples' problems seem so intractable to them that the question of separation arises. When I'm asked that question during a counseling session I get the feeling of standing on a very high precipice. Emotionally I hold my breath for fear of saying the wrong thing. Separation is a make-or-break kind of maneuver and therefore … Continue reading “SHOULD WE SEPARATE?”
Number One – To Know They Are Loved. This forms the basis for a child's sense of self. They need to be both told and shown they are loved. You cannot overdo this one. Sometimes men will tell me saying I love you to their child is something they are not comfortable doing. Usually their … Continue reading The Two Most Important Things All Children Need
What Do You See? Yes, it's one of those kinds of pictures. At first glance you have an immediate idea of what you see. Then, upon closer inspection, you see something different. Sometimes we see what we see because that is what we want to see or expect to see. (yes, you'll have to read … Continue reading What Do You See?
It was probably 20 or so years ago I had a conversation with a church leader who was telling me about the new preacher their church had hired. One comment was very revealing in regards to his expectations of a preacher’s wife, “Our new preacher’s wife is really something. We got a two-for-the-price-of-one when we … Continue reading THE PREACHER’S WIFE