Reconciliation Day

The advice columnist, Ann Landers, once wrote a column many years ago suggesting "Reconciliation Day" for everyone who had had a misunderstanding with a friend or family member.  Read what happened to a family who tried it out: DEAR ANN: Your column on "Reconciliation Day" changed my life.  But let me start at the beginning. … Continue reading Reconciliation Day


Sometimes couples' problems seem so intractable to them that the question of separation arises.  When I'm asked that question during a counseling session I get the feeling of standing on a very high precipice.  Emotionally I hold my breath for fear of saying the wrong thing. Separation is a make-or-break kind of maneuver and therefore … Continue reading “SHOULD WE SEPARATE?”

A Man’s Guide to Less Drama

This post was inspired by a post I read by Elizabeth Potter entitled "A Woman's Guide to Less Drama."  It gave some wonderfully practical advice to women from a woman.  Because they came from the mouth of a woman, they are much more likely to be heard by the female audience.  If I'd written the … Continue reading A Man’s Guide to Less Drama

What Do You See?

What Do You See? Yes, it's one of those kinds of pictures.  At first glance you have an immediate idea of what you see.  Then, upon closer inspection, you see something different. Sometimes we see what we see because that is what we want to see or expect to see.  (yes, you'll have to read … Continue reading What Do You See?

Focus On Solutions, Not Problems

Below is a quote from a recent post on the blog "A Successful Marriage." At the end of the quote is a link to the entire post. It shares some helpful thoughts for keeping your marriage moving forward. "Problems are constructed and driven by fear and resistance. Solutions are born of desire, dreams, and vision. … Continue reading Focus On Solutions, Not Problems

Diseased Relationships

Walking across our yard to the barn, the crunching grass lets me know there has been a frost during the night.  Wrapping both hands around the large, warm milk bottle, I feel it chase away the chill of the autumn air. At thirteen years old my mind is on other things, so the fact that … Continue reading Diseased Relationships